It’s SO EXCITING: my sister, a TV writer in LA, was in New York City for a few days because her PILOT was just picked up by ABC. This is huge! With her writing partner, she’s the executive producer of an upcoming show called Women’s Murder Club, based on a series of novels by James Patterson.
Not that many years ago, when my sister and I were home in Kansas City for Christmas, she went to a party with her high-school friends. The next morning, when I got up, she was already awake (a sign that something unusual was afoot) and talking to my parents. She’d been up most of the night, thinking; a friend had said that she was moving to L.A. to start writing for TV, and did my sister want to come, too?
That was Christmas Eve morning. By February 3, my sister had not only decided to move, she had already packed up, left New York City, and was settled in LA and trying to kickstart a writing career.
And now…to get a show on the air!
One reason I find her success exciting is that it reminds me that it’s quite possible to change your life dramatically. Of course, she wasn’t married, didn’t have kids, didn’t own her apartment, didn’t even own much stuff, so that made it easier to change. But still, it was an extraordinary shift, made very quickly. And it worked out.
I think about what she did whenever I’m feeling stuck. I remind myself that I could make a big change, too, and I try to think about what my options are. Usually, I end up deciding that I don’t really want to change – but that, in itself, is a positive outcome.
That very same sister is getting married to a fantastic guy on May 26. Like she doesn’t have enough to worry about. I’m anxious myself, and all I have to do is walk down the aisle with a bouquet, wrangle two flower girls, and give a toast.
Being involved in the wedding make me reflect a bit on the whole wedding process, and I went back to my bookshelf to re-read my friend Kamy Wicoff’s hilarious and thought-provoking book, I Do But I Don’t. The book is an interesting mix – partly a memoir of her own engagement and wedding, partly journalistic reporting on weddings, partly social criticism. The thing I liked about her book was that it wasn’t an indictment of the kind of wedding with a white dress, engagement ring, bridesmaids, etc. Kamy was very honest both about why she was attracted to model of wedding (which is what she had, and also what I had), and also why she questioned it. Fascinating.
Looking back on this post, it’s a little flack-y — my sister’s TV show, my friend’s book. Sorry. I may be a flack, but it’s sincere.