Book Tour

  • Toronto -- February 4, 2010
    Gretchen Rubin and Heather Reisman
    Indigo
    2300 Yonge St. (Yonge and Eglinton)
    Toronto, ON
    7:00 pm
  • New York City -- February 9, 2010
    92nd Street Y
    1395 Lexington Avenue
    New York, NY
    7:30 pm
    SOLD OUT
  • Houston, Texas – February 18, 2010
    Blue Willow Bookshop
    14532 Memorial Drive
    7:00 pm
  • Houston, Texas – February 19, 2010
    Mom 2.0 Conference
    9:30 am
  • New York City – February 24, 2010
    JCC
    334 Amsterdam Avenue (76th Street)
    7:30 pm
    Tickets: call 646-505-5708

What Started Me Thinking

  • "Whoever is happy will make others happy, too." Mark Twain.
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

Happiness Theories I Reject

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

A Halloween tradition that makes me and the grandparents happy.

PumpkinI’ve started a satisfying tradition that meets my resolution to “be a storehouse of happy memories.” (And why is that a happiness-project goal? because reflecting on happy times in the past helps boost happiness in the present.)

Every Halloween, I take a picture of the Big Girl—and now the Little Girl, as well—in their Halloween costumes, put the photos in a Halloween-themed picture frame, and make a Halloween photo gallery.

I also give a copy to each pair of grandparents, so they have their own set as well.

Now, like any tradition, it’s a fair amount of trouble and a potential source of guilt. For example, this year, for the first time, I didn’t have the photos ready by October 31. I’ve taken the photo, but haven’t managed to order copies or buy the frames yet. So our gallery wasn’t up-to-date.

And I feel bad about that.

But I’ll get it done, and in the end, a tradition like this is worth the effort and the guilt. It’s a lot of bang for the buck. It’s so much fun to look back on the previous years’ costumes. It’s a great element of house decoration. It gives a sense of family continuity.

One problem with most of the photographs we have around the house is that I stop noticing them. They fade into the background. Because these Halloween pictures are only out for two weeks or so, I enjoy them more.

It's a little aggravating that I don't get much cooperation from my team in getting the photo taken--putting on the costumes, striking various poses, taking a bunch of pictures, etc. And then of course those same family members (who shall remain nameless) love to look at the photos once they're assembled. That brings me to another resolution: "Let it go." It's supposed to be fun! So no nagging, no snapping, on my part.

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I love the idea of a photo gallery. I'll try this with my kids. Thanks!

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Gretchen RubinGretchen Rubin is a best-selling writer whose new book, The Happiness Project, is an account of the year she spent test-driving studies and theories about how to be happier. On this blog, she shares her insights to help you create your own happiness project.


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